1) knowing my value to God (see https://brianfriedl.com/am-i-valuable/). I have studied and repeated these truths to myself daily. Not for the purpose of focusing on myself but removing my doubts so I can fully serve him without focusing on myself, remembering I have everything I need in Christ.

2) knowing my mission (Matthew 28:18-20, 2 cor 5:17, Romans 12, 1 cor 12, Ephesians 4)

3) seek God and ask for forgiveness for myself and for me to forgive those who have hurt me. (Matthew 6:9-15, Matthew 18:21-35)

4) realize that God wastes nothing. All that hurt gives you a platform to serve those with the same hurts. They know you understand what they are going through. You have the LORD to comfort you so that you can comfort them with the comfort you have received. (2 cor 1). Find ways to serve those with the same hurts you’ve had. When you do, you start to see God’s redemptive work in it all. I don’t want to minimize the hurt in any way. It is both real and painful. My choice;however, is to focus on movement toward healing.

5) get involved in a small study group where you interact, be vulnerable, and pray with others. This helps you see that people generally are doing what they can with the information and skills they have. For example, a mom who uses drugs to numb her pain is not being a good parent but that might be the only thing she knows to deal with her struggles. As a matter of fact, might be the best thing she had found so far. Had she been introduced to Jesus earlier on, she would not have had to resort to drugs as an option in the first place.

6) healing takes time. As you do more of the things above, the faster you are required to deal with your hurt

Hope this helps. Be sure to leave me some feedback if this was helpful or if you have other questions. Praying for you as you walk this journey. Blessings to you!